Vibrators – they can do wonders for a couple’s sex life – heightening pleasurable sensations and intimacy levels in a relationship. But while they seem pretty easy to use on the surface, it’s using a vibrator creatively that can make all the difference to the depth of your shared pleasure.
As Karen Linder, owner of sexual health and wellness company, U & Me Time, explains, “creativity is based on a couples’ willingness to relax and have fun—not the usual routine they follow.” So when it comes to getting creative with vibrators, read on.
Adding a vibrator to you and your partner’s foreplay routine creates a more intimate experience and can satisfy desires and fantasies neither of you knew you had. Amp up your sex life by adding these creative sex positions with a vibrator for an extra pleasurable time.
1. Sex position with a vibrator: erotic massage
Love back massages? Caleb Backe, a Health and Wellness Expert for Maple Holistics, suggests “using that “back massager” for an actual body massage.” Using Crescendo can be a great way to build up the sexual tension in a relationship.
Have your partner lay down and tease them with the vibrations all over their body. Avoid their genitals and awaken other erogenous zones with the massager such as the inner thigh, labia and neck – this will also release any build of the stress hormone cortisol, making orgasm much more achievable.
When they are begging for more, Alex Riddle suggests “sending waves of pleasure to [the] clit or G-spot,” or penis and perineum to bring them to climax.
Learn more about how to give an erotic massage.
2. Sex position with a vibrator: combined with oral sex
Using the mouth and tongue along with the vibrations will take you and your partner to the height of your pleasure.
For this position “Vibe n Blow” wrap your lips around the tip of the penis and place Crescendo under the base of the penis with the fins stimulating the perineum. The vibrations will excite the nerve endings in both the penis and the mouth, adding that extra buzz to your oral sex.
Caleb also suggests…
“…using a vibe on your chin or cheeks while going down on him or her. It can heighten the sensation like nothing else, but it needs to be comfortable so you can focus on the task at hand and not resort to rearrange the position each time.”
3. Sex position with a vibrator: Mutual Pleasure
You can also pleasure stimulate yourself with a vibrator whilst giving oral sex to your partner.
Women – slide Crescendo inside of you with the fins resting on your clitoris. This will serve as a clitoral vibrator while you lick your partner’s genitals. This sensation will double the fun and build you both to a state of mutual bliss and deep moaning. There is a range of vibrators that can be used and worn during penetrative sexual intercourse. Some of which include vibrating strap-ons, cock rings and mini-vibes that slot into the vagina along with the penis.
Vibrators like a bullet vibrator are also great for clitoral stimulation during sexual intercourse. Positions like doggy style and others where the clit is accessible are perfect for such vibratory play. While sex toys have long been associated with clitoral stimulation or penetration, vibrating cock rings come in a variety of shapes and sizes. They are perfect for couples because the vibration will stimulate her G-spot while the constriction around his shaft increases his erectile function.
4. Sex position with a vibrator: shower sex
A wonderfully creative way couples can use sexual toys is in the water. Just make sure you use a 100% waterproof vibrator like Crescendo!
Try bending over and kneeling towards the wall with the shower pointed on your back, dripping down your genitals. In this position we like to call “Derriere Delight” a partner can be penetrated with Crescendo from behind while supporting the hips.
Tease your partner with Crescendo’s silky smooth caress, starting from their inner thigh and leading up to their anus being careful not to slide it in. Flirt and stimulate your partner’s nerve endings to build up desire.
5. Sex position with a vibrator: voyeurism
Watching someone experiencing pleasure is such a turn-on. Why do you think porn is so popular?
If you’ve never used a mirror during sex, now might just be the time. Become a voyeur and ask your partner to use their vibrator on themselves. You can see them pleasure themselves to climax and you may even learn some new things about how to pleasure them too.
“Fly casual” for this Han-solo voyage of temptation. Wrap Tenuto around your shaft and balls, lie back, and stroke yourself simultaneously while the rumbling vibrations pulse within you.
Not comfortable letting your partner watch? Here are 11 reasons to let your partner watch you masturbate.
6. Sex position with a vibrator: domination
Let go of control, or take complete control with the MysteryApp, and add an entirely new level of creative mystery to the bedroom.
As Alex puts it:
“What more could you ask for than a sex toy driven by smartphone technology? This device transforms your phone into the remote. Not only can you deftly alter the controls when you’re up close and personal, but you can also provide the appropriate stimulation from distance thanks to the relevant app being wifi-enabled. The gadget comes with built-in vibration patterns, or you can let your creative juices flow and program the vibrator yourself. It comes with rechargeable batteries, meaning it is on-hand at any time”.
Positions such as “quivering surrender” and “smart domination” are some creative examples of how this can be achieved.
Take control of your partner’s orgasm, building up the anticipation by remote controlling Tenuto’s vibrations with the MysteryApp. Touch the tip of the penis to the base of the toy to send vibrations reverberating along the whole shaft and frenulum, and play with edging and orgasm denial.
7. Sex position with a vibrator: public sex
You can even take vibrators out of the bedroom! If you’re a little agoraphile, (have a fetish for having sexual intercourse in the outdoors) then you can use a app-controlled vibrator to control the vibrator while you're in public. This gives one partner the ability to “surprise” the other in a variety of locations. What’s more, using toys when in a non-nude situation since the clothing adds friction and heightens the anticipation.
But watch out – it’s important to be mindful of your surroundings and not to reveal anything inappropriate that could wind you up being arrested. Public indecency is still an offence.
Why Introduce Vibrators Into The Bedroom?
Only 25% of women are able to orgasm from penetration alone, and studies have shown that men receive 3 orgasms for every 1 that a woman receives.
It’s time to talk about and practice more pleasurable sex to help close the orgasm gap.
Our mission at MysteryVibe is to enhance pleasure in the bedroom through sextech. We have developed products that generate pleasure for both partners during sexual foreplay and add a new level of excitement to sex.
Crescendo, the body-adaptable smart vibrator, can bend to take the shape of the user’s body, offering countless vibrations for a truly personalized pleasure experience for you and your partner. Use it to stimulate multiple erogenous zones during intercourse.
Tenuto, the wearable smart vibrator for men, features six vibration zones, from the base of the penis all the way to the perineum. It can be worn during solo play and during intercourse with a partner, providing pleasure for both people.
Alex Reddle, Chief editor of Flirt.com and sex and relationships expert, explains that…
…“Couples will inevitably experience their fair share of ups and downs, but vibrant sex life is a good indicator that all is going well. Many partners feel so satisfied with one another that they are content to keep their physicality within certain parameters. Others prefer experimentation.
Sex toys might have a somewhat intimidatory air, especially where either party has never utilized them before. But they will certainly enhance proceedings.”
How To Introduce Vibrators To The Bedroom?
As vibrators may have an “intimidatory air,” it is especially important to be conscientious when introducing them to a partner.
How do you do this? - Communicate!
Communication is key. Explain to your partner that your pleasure is important. Reassure them that it is not a comment on their performance, but an exciting tool that will augment both of your experience.
A great way to do this is by making it something to look forward to. Build up the excitement and shop for one together, or buy each other vibrators as gifts that you can use in the bedroom.
Just make sure you have a conversation before “whipping” it out, as you want to avoid a negative response.
Of course, vibrators are meant for fun and games, but as Karen reminds us, “being too creative can land couples in the hospital, so using common sense is important.”
If you aren't ready to buy yourself a vibrator but you want to experiment with DIY sex toys make sure you are careful and research how to play safely, as they can put you at risk of infection and damage you internally. There are plenty of DIY sex toys horror stories - and you don't want to be another one.
While using different types of vibrators and sex toys in general, make sure the toys are thoroughly cleaned before and after use to avoid infections. Putting a condom over your vibrator if you plan to use it for penetration is always a smart move.
Remember, sexual health includes more than just increasing your pleasure. Play smart!
Ready to start the fun? Check the complete playbook of sex positions with a vibrator for extra fun.