Are you looking to add some excitement to your sex life? Well then... let's talk about how to use a vibrator during sex with your partner! Not only can vibrators enhance orgasms and introduce new sensations, but they can also be a game-changer for partnered sex. Many women find that the extra stimulation during sex from vibrators takes their orgasms to a whole new level. And vibrators aren’t just for women! Men can benefit from vibrators to help them last longer in bed in addition to intensifying their orgasms. Now, onto the fun part – let’s explore how to use a vibrator during sex!
Give an erotic massage with a vibrator
To really turn up the ‘good vibes’ with your partner, give them an erotic massage and create a whole experience. Help them relieve the tension in their shoulders with gentle vibrations from a vibrator. Then, glide the vibrator over different erogenous zones like the neck and inner thighs. As you explore your partner’s body, increase the intensity and mix it with other sensations. This kind of playful exploration can help create novelty during foreplay, uncover new pleasure zones, and inspire a different perspective around arousal and sex.
Put on a show for your partner with your vibrator
It can be a turn-on for your partner to watch you pleasing yourself. Use a vibrator like Poco to put on a little vibe and tease show, edging yourself and slowing bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm – all while your partner watches, wanting nothing more than to touch you. This can be a great method of foreplay, taking it at your own pace, a power play (for kinkier couples), and just plain fun to try!
Partake in mutual masturbation with a vibrator
Mutual masturbation can be an exciting way to get into the mood and add a visual element to arousal. Get comfortably in a mutual masturbation position that works for both your comfort levels. Pick up your favorite vibrator and start with some teasing action while clothed or in underwear for a tantalizing warm-up, then gradually remove clothing as arousal builds. You can continue watching each other or make it a more interactive experience and help bring each other to climax, whether you continue with mutual masturbation or advance to something else.
Use a vibrator during oral sex for an extra buzz
Using a vibrator during oral sex can take the experience to the next level, adding a variety of new and enticing sensations for both partners! When giving oral stimulation to a male partner, try using a vibrator against your cheek, sending dispersed vibrations from your warm, wet mouth to their penis. This combination can create a unique experience that seriously amps up their arousal. When giving oral sex to a female partner, you can tease their G-spot with a vibrator while you lick their clitoris, or place the vibrator on their perineum, stimulating a different nerve ending and increasing arousal from different points while you bring them to their crescendo of pleasure.
Stimulate the clitoris with a vibrator to give it the attention it deserves
Most women need more than just penetration to reach climax, and that's where vibrators come in real handy. Get your partner super aroused by using a vibrator on their clitoris during foreplay and sex. Small, compact vibrators like Poco make it easy to stimulate the clitoris in nearly any sex position, so you can provide astronomical pleasure to your partner throughout the entire experience. Try Doggy Style and use a vibrator to arouse the clitoris while you or your partner hits the G-spot. Similarly, jazz up good ol’ missionary by adding stimulation to the clitoris while sharing sweaty, sexy intimacy.
Use a vibrator to stimulate the vulva and labia
While the clitoris is usually the spotlight for female arousal and pleasure, the entire vulva is a playground of pleasure waiting to be unlocked! External vulva stimulation is ideal for women who suffer from painful penetration, sensitivity on the clitoris, and menopausal and postpartum women. This external stimulation can help women get aroused and maintain arousal during sex.
Use a vulva vibrator, a small vibrator, or a bullet vibrator to stimulate the labia, perimeter of the vulva, and the opening of the vagina. Exploring vulva and labia pleasure is a whole different vibe from clitoral and vaginal sensations. Have patience while discovering how your body responds to this unique stimulation and try different vibration patterns and intensities to see which you prefer.
There aren’t many vibrators specifically dedicated to stimulating the vulva, but thankfully there’s one that does it all and can be used during intercourse called Legato. This external vulva and labia vibrator is circular in shape, allowing for a penis or other sex toy to be inserted through the large gap in the middle. Legato is also adjustable to various vulva shapes. Adjust Legato to mold against your labia’s unique folds and hold it against you while dispersed vibrations gently provoke arousal while your partner stimulates internally.
Enhance sensations on erogenous zones with a vibrator
Elevate your favorite tried-and-true pleasure points by exploring these same spots with new sensations. Vibrations offer different sensations since they increase blood flow, making everything feel more intense. Does your partner love it when you graze their breasts with your hands? Get creative with a wearable male vibrator like Tenuto 2 and press the opening against your partner’s breasts and nipples. Watch Tenuto 2 vibrate the entire perimeter of their breasts with tantalizing sensations. Nipple orgasm, anyone?! Use your vibrator like a paintbrush against your partner’s body – the canvas. Allow yourself to explore their body, awakening new sounds and sensations as you stroke up and down, side to side, even discovering new pleasure spots you didn’t know existed.
Use a vibrator to find and arouse the G-spot
Intensify G-spot pleasure and find the holy grail of female pleasure with G-spot vibrators made to hit the mark! Using a vibrator can make it easier to find and stimulate the elusive G-spot (especially when that vibrator is designed to bend and mimic a human finger like Poco, but we might be a little biased on that one...). When using a G-spot vibrator with a partner, find the G-spot, and let the vibes work their orgasmic magic! While the vibrator is on the G-spot, you or your partner are free to get deviously creative and give oral sex, massage the breasts, stimulate the perineum, make-out – the sky is the limit in terms of all the combinations of things you can do during sex.
Have an explosive couples orgasm with a vibrating cock ring
Vibrating cock rings and wearable male vibrators are fantastic options for couples looking to explore sex toys and add extra intensity to their sex life. Vibrating cock rings can elevate pleasure for men and women at the same time. These wearable male sex toys are worn at the base of the penis and have a motor that provides stimulation to either the penis and clitoris or just the clitoris. More advanced male vibrators like Tenuto 2 have 4 powerful motors that stimulate the penis and perineum for harder, longer-lasting erections and amped up sensations, as well as the clitoris and vulva for increased arousal during sex. Plus, a wearable design allows you to enjoy hands-free orgasms and extra stimulation without fumbling between bodies.
Stimulate the perineum in all new ways
To add some extra excitement to sex, try stimulating the perineum, and before you ask what the perineum is, it’s that sensitive patch of skin between the anus and genitals. For men, perineum stimulation with a vibrator can massage the prostate from the outside, increasing overall arousal and leading to stronger erections and more powerful ejaculations.
Take a small handheld vibrator and massage his perineum during oral sex or in a position like Reverse Cowgirl to really rev his arousal. Or try a wearable male vibrator like Tenuto 2 that comes with a motor dedicated to perineum stimulation. The benefits of Tenuto 2 are that it can be worn during sex, stimulating both the penis, perineum, and clitoris without interrupting the flow of sex.
Men aren’t the only ones who can enjoy perineum stimulation though. Women can equally enjoy perineum stimulation and massage with a vibrator during sex too. Amp up the classic Doggy Style with a vibrator buzzing at her perineum.
Explore anal pleasure with a vibrator
Have a cheeky adventure with a vibrator, exploring “down under” with your partner. The anus is ripe with many nerve endings, making anal play a great way to intensify sex and sensation for both partners. When using a vibrator for anal penetration, pick a vibrator with a flared base or handle to prevent any mishaps. If you're new to anal play, use plenty of lubricant and start slow and small, like with Molto, an ultra-slim anal vibrator. For men, anal play can feel great because of the prostate. The right stimulation and pressure can lead to a prostate orgasm. For women, anal play can also culminate in an anal orgasm from stimulating the A-spot. Either partner can have the other use the anal vibrator on them or inside them while having sex to explore double the sensation, and if you’re a woman, dual penetration and blended orgasms!
Make your shower a steamy sex scene with a vibrator
Using a vibrator in the shower can make shower sex a steamy affair. Imagine hot water cascading down your body while your partner kisses the crook of your neck and presses a vibrator against your clitoris while slowly penetrating you. Just be careful in the shower as things are slippery when wet, so one idea is to grab hold of the shower handles for support and brace against the wall.
Give your partner control with a remote control vibrator
For the couple ready to venture into new territory, try out remote control vibrators for a novel and intimate experience. Remote control vibrators allow you to control your partner’s pleasure from a long or short distance, depending on the brand and type of remote-control vibrator. Bluetooth vibrators can give a sense of domination or submission during sex, intensifying the dynamic between partners by injecting some novelty and heightening the anticipation. For example, one partner can be tied up and blindfolded while the other uses the remote or smartphone to tease and tantalize their partner’s genitals, keeping them guessing what comes next and when they might be allowed to...
Get kinky with a vibrator during BDSM
BDSM explores power dynamics and sensory play through bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism. A big element of BDSM is sensory play, and vibrators add a lot of sensation. You can increase the sensory experience by amplifying the sense of touch with intense or teasing vibrations while removing other senses, such as sight and sound. This way the person receiving is totally focused on what they are feeling. For more experienced BDSM players, try vibrator torture, continuing to arouse your partner’s genitals with a vibrator, edging them and bringing them to orgasm... and then continuing until they are forced into having another orgasm. The intensity is up to the discretion of both partners, so make sure to talk about it before, during, and after, always adhering to consent and mutual respect.
Explore PDAs with a vibrator in public
If you're into public sex, using an app-controlled vibrator can discreetly spice up your experience in the company of others. During your next dinner date, wear a panty vibrator and give your partner the control. Try to hide the pleasure from your face as your partner teases you. With the app, your partner can control the vibrations, deny your orgasms or allow you to orgasm.
Tips for using a vibrator during sex with a partner
Here are some tips for getting the best experience with your vibrator and your partner!
Discuss it ahead of time with your partner
This one might be somewhat redundant, but before bringing a vibrator into the bedroom –talk about it. Especially if you know your partner has any hesitation about using vibrators. It’s all about making sure you’re both on the same page and feeling good about trying something new together. Try bringing it up casually and see how they feel.
Set the scene
Setting up the mood is key. Try to make your space feel cozy and sexy. Put on some music you both dig, maybe throw on some audio porn that gets you in the mood. Tidy up your space so it feels sexy and relaxing. Consider lighting some scented candles, dimming the lights for moody ambiance, or putting on those silky sheets for the special occasion.
Use plenty of lube
Lube is pretty much a must, especially if you’re using a vibrator. It just makes everything feel smoother and more enjoyable. A little lube can be the difference between an "ouch" and an "ahh." Remember, though—like choosing the right wine for dinner, pairing your lube with your vibrator is key. Make sure the type of lubricant you are using is compatible with the vibrator. For example, use water-based lubrication with silicone vibrators, as both silicone and oil lubricants can degrade the material of silicone vibrators.
Have a good sense of humor
Introducing a vibrator into the mix can lead to unexpected moments, so it’s important to not sweat the small stuff and keep a good sense of humor. Whether it’s a funny noise, an awkward position, or simply navigating the new sensations together, laughing off the little faux pas can make the experience more enjoyable and less intimidating. Remember, sex is supposed to be fun! Let the laughable moments bring you closer together. After all, a couple that can giggle in bed together is bound to enjoy a deeper, more connected relationship.
Takeaway
Learning how to use a vibrator during sex can open a whole new world of pleasure, intense sensations, and deeper intimacy. Whether you’re indulging in public displays of affection or elevating sensory play with a buzzing BDSM scene, it's about trying new things with your partner. Everyone is different; what might work for one person might not be the same for someone else. After all, variety is the spice of life, and vibrators, especially MysteryVibe’s award-winning vibrators, provide a variety of sensations, novelty, and even health benefits. Don’t just take our word for it, try them out with your partner. Your sex life will thank you for it.
